I Love You

She is the most beautiful person I’ve ever had the pleasure of laying my eyes on. She’s funny, sweet, kind, gentle, but most importantly, understanding. She has these eyes. Beautiful eyes. Beautiful eyes aren’t determined by color, they’re determined by the look that is given through them, all the stories they have to tell, how much they light up when they see you. Her hair falls perfectly over her face, shaping it and bringing out the brightness in her smile. The smile she gives is wider than the Grand Canyon. The immense pleasure you get from being in her arms is enough to last you a lifetime. Knowing that you have someone who loves you and is willing to make it work is something that is practically unheard of, and even more rarely seen. The personality that she has, the way she moves and acts, the way she looks at you with love and compassion is something you should never give up. No matter what. There is nothing out there that will make you happier than she. A person like that is the rarest kind of person to find. She is worth more than all the friends in the world. A person like that can make you forget that you even have friends. You become so enthused in her that she is all you have. And once you let her go, it’ll be hard for her to come back. Your entire life experience so far will never prepare you for the lifetime of heartache that would entail if you let her go. And it’s not even that you get her back, it’s ultimately up to her whether she wants to stay or leave. You want nothing more than to prove to her that you are worth everything and that you will never make another mistake like that ever again. She helped you become who you are today. She shaped and molded you into a wonderful human being. If it wasn’t for her, who knows where you would be right now. She knows she deserves better, but you have to prove that you can give her that. You have to make it right. People make mistakes and she understands that, but it doesn’t make it hurt any less. You learned lessons. You’re never going to fully understand a situation until you’ve learned that lesson. But for her to trust you again and for her to believe you are the right person for her, you’ve got to become become someone far better than she could’ve ever imagined. Someone who nobody but yourself can help you mold into. You need to love her even more than you did before, more than you ever thought was possible, and you’ve gotta let her know about it. 

The Rut

If you don’t do what makes you happy then you will feel stuck between a rock and crippling depression your whole life. Now it’s not to say that you can’t live a happy life by doing something that you hate, but more often than not, that’s probably not the case. 

  1. What makes you happy?

Finding a hobby, job, or person to spend your life with are usually some of the most common forms of external joy. Whatever it is, it just has to mean something to you. It has to be something you can wake up and look forward to. You have to gain something from it (not meaning that you have to physically gain something from a person, but companionship is certainly important). Gain knowledge, experience, enhance or supplement creativity, enrich your soul and/or provide a place to go, even if the place isn’t physical (like writing, for example).

     2. Make your dream reality

So you figured out what makes you happy, now what? Well, it’s not going to just magically appear. Work towards putting a plan into action. Take cars, for example. Let’s say you love cars, you know a lot more than the average person about them, and the screaming turbos make your heart flutter more than any man or woman ever could. You drive grandmothers passed-down 1986 Buick LaSabre, so how are you going to fulfill your dream of a 10-second pass in the 1/4 mile? Make a plan. What’s your dream car? What motor do you want to put in it? Will you put turbos/a supercharger on there or just build the motor? What kind of wheels are you going to put on it? Paint color? You have so much to choose from and no forum is going to tell you what you need to do to build YOUR car. You build it however you want. Buy the shell of your dream car, and work your way up to making your neighbors hate you.

     3. Escape the rut

You built your dream, created a work of art, made your fantasy come alive. So how do you escape this rut? Every day you looked forward to coming home and working on your wild vision of what can be, and made it something that is. Be proud. You did something for yourself because nobody could do it for you. Do it again. And again. And again. Do it until it kills you. No great man has ever gone out because he didn’t do something. A great man goes out when he keeps his passion alive until it can’t save him anymore. That’s why being happy is so important. You can’t live in the grand canyon and expect to have the freedom you deserve, live above the clouds and shine onto those below you who wish to follow in your footsteps. Lead a man to a cliff and he will turn away. Send him to the moon and he will dream of the stars. There’s no purpose to life if you can’t live, so do what you will to inspire the lost and guide the misdirected to a world that they didn’t know they could create.

What Your Tuition Gets You

When you’re convinced that college is the place to be, think again. In today’s world, a bachelors degree feels no better than a high school diploma. You can’t just graduate with basic knowledge and start working for your dad in his shop or the big manufacturing plant across town. 

Most people believe that going to college and graduating right after high school is what’s best for you. But in some, if not many cases, taking a year or two off may end up being better in the long run.

You’re 18. You don’t have a clue what you want to do with your life. Your mother wants you to study psychology so you will have a range of career choices. Your father wants you to get your MBA in Business Law, open your own firm, and make more money than you know what to do with. But you just want to be a mechanic, or a fire fighter, or a police officer. “But they don’t make a lot of money” your parents tell you, wagging a finger with their own hand on their hip. 

To you, happiness trumps all else. You could have a dollar to your name but if you’re happy then nothing else matters. That is the truest form of any person. The truest form is someone who does what they want and won’t take “no” for an answer. 

You don’t want debt, you want to follow your passion. Take a year off, see if it suits you, and if not then it’s never to late to go to college if you so choose. But take your first semester with caution.

Those who go to college will end up as one of three people. The first being the most sought after: the success stories. Your transition from boy and girl to man and woman happens practically overnight. College is a breeze, straight A’s, and a garunteed career upon graduation.

The second type is sadly the most common. I don’t even have to explain, most people already know. The girl who comes back at 3 in the morning with one shoe, and it’s not even hers. Or the guy puking out his regret and sorrows. The partiers statistically do the poorest in school compared to the other two types, but can make for some very interesting friends.

Now the third type is where only a select few fall. The truest forms of people, these are the well-intentioned but poorly-executed types of people. These are the people who know what they want to do but aren’t working for their goal, instead of the goal of someone else. They sink under the covers every night to avoid the work they know they’re not going to do anyways. But don’t let them fool you, because they also tend to be some of the smartest brainiacs in school, just not in ways that the college may care about. Your new neighbor in your dorm who never comes outside, is actually a pretty smart guy. He has designed a new state-of-the-art technology to produce cars for half the cost and twice as efficiently. But he will never see production because he either gets angry and throws it away or is ignored by every investor. And the worst part is, he’s not even an engineering major. And that girl across the hall who eats alone every day, but always seems to be on her laptop is creating websites for friends and companies for pennies on the dollar, but she still continues her chemistry career path. 

You can’t please everyone. But you have to start somewhere. And that somewhere starts within. If you don’t want to go directly to college after high school, then don’t. Seriously, don’t. You will learn more on your own working for the local mechanic than you will listening to Mr. Tenure and his political rants. Be smart. Only you know what’s best for you, and be damned if you let anyone tell you otherwise. 

Your professors will tell you on day one to “never listen to sophomores” because they become very biased and opinionated after freshman year. If you want the truth about the college you’re attending, talk to a professor and ask him or her to give it to you straight; is it really worth it? It’s your call to find out.